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You're Not Alone

A compassionate guide for patients and families after a first seizure

What just happened was terrifying. Your heart is probably still racing. You might be crying. You might feel numb. All of these responses are completely normal.

Most people who have a first seizure live completely normal lives
One seizure does NOT mean epilepsy
Your loved one is not in pain during the seizure
There is help, there is hope, and there is a path forward
Most Important

🚨 Emergency: Read This First

When to call emergency services immediately

Call 108 RIGHT NOW if:

📞 Call Now
  • ⏱️ Seizure lasts more than 5 minutes CRITICAL
    This is a medical emergency called status epilepticus
  • 🔄 Another seizure starts before the person fully recovers
  • 💨 Trouble breathing after the seizure ends
  • 💧 Seizure happened in water
  • 🤕 Person was injured during the seizure
  • 🤰 Person is pregnant
  • 🩺 Person has diabetes
  • 🌡️ Adult has seizure with fever — Could indicate brain infection
  • 🆕 This is their FIRST seizure ever Needs evaluation
  • 🧠 Severe headache before or after — Could indicate bleeding
  • 💪 New weakness on one side that doesn't resolve — Could be stroke
  • 😵 Not waking up or confused for more than an hour
5 min

Why the 5-minute rule matters

After 5 minutes, the brain may have difficulty stopping the seizure on its own. Medication can help stop it. Every minute beyond 5 increases risk of complications.

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Understanding

What Just Happened?

Understanding what you witnessed

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What You May Have Seen

You may have seen your loved one suddenly:

  • Go stiff and fall (the "tonic" phase)
  • Start shaking rhythmically (the "clonic" phase)
  • Make strange sounds (air forced past vocal cords — NOT choking)
  • Turn blue around the lips (breathing pauses temporarily)
  • Drool or foam at the mouth
  • Lose bladder control
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What you need to know: This looks violent and terrifying, but your loved one is not consciously experiencing this. They are not suffering in the way it appears. They won't remember it.
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What It Feels Like for Them

Most people remember nothing of the actual seizure. Some have a warning feeling beforehand (called an "aura"):

  • Strange smells or tastes
  • A rising feeling in the stomach
  • Déjà vu
  • Tingling sensations
  • Sudden fear or anxiety

After waking, they typically feel confused, exhausted, sore, headachy, and sometimes embarrassed or scared.

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The confusion and exhaustion are normal. This recovery period (postictal phase) can last minutes to hours. Let them rest.
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One Seizure Is NOT Epilepsy

Epilepsy is defined as having 2 or more unprovoked seizures at least 24 hours apart. A single seizure, especially one with an identifiable trigger, does not mean epilepsy.

Many people have one seizure and never have another.

Types of Seizures

Understanding the type helps doctors plan treatment. Here are the most common types:

Tonic-Clonic

(Grand Mal)

Stiffening → rhythmic jerking → unconsciousness → confusion

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Absence

(Petit Mal)

Brief staring (5-30 seconds), common in children, may blink rapidly

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Focal Aware

Tingling, jerking of one limb, strange sensations — person is aware

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Focal Impaired

Staring, lip smacking, picking at clothes — person seems "out of it"

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Myoclonic

Quick jerks, like being startled, often in the morning

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Atonic

(Drop)

Sudden loss of muscle tone → person collapses

Action Guide

🩹 First Aid: What to Do

During and after a seizure

The most important things: Stay calm, time the seizure, and keep them safe. You cannot stop a seizure, but you can help.

✅ DO These Things

  1. 1
    Stay calm Your calm presence helps everyone around you
  2. 2
    Time the seizure This is the most important thing you can do
  3. 3
    Keep them safe Clear away furniture, sharp objects, glasses
  4. 4
    Ease them to the ground If they're standing, help them down gently
  5. 5
    Protect their head Place something soft underneath
  6. 6
    Loosen tight clothing Especially around the neck
  7. 7
    Stay with them Don't leave them alone until fully recovered
  8. 8
    AFTER convulsions stop Gently roll onto side (recovery position)

❌ DO NOT Do These

  • 🚫
    Put anything in their mouth MYTH: They CANNOT swallow their tongue
  • 🚫
    Hold them down You won't stop the seizure and might cause injury
  • 🚫
    Give CPR during seizure They're breathing, even if it looks irregular
  • 🚫
    Give food or water Wait until they're fully awake and alert
  • 🚫
    Throw water on them
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    Shout or try to wake them They can't hear you during the seizure
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Important: Recovery Position Timing

Don't try to force someone onto their side during active convulsions — you'll fight against rigid muscles and risk injury. Wait until the jerking stops, THEN roll them gently onto their side.

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When It Ends: What to Say

They'll be confused and scared. Use a calm, reassuring voice:

"You had a seizure. You're safe now. I'm here with you."
"Take your time. There's no rush."
"You're going to be okay."
Medical Note: Todd's Paralysis: Sometimes after a seizure, one side of the body is temporarily weak or paralyzed. This looks like a stroke but is NOT a stroke. It usually resolves within a few hours. However, if unsure, treat it as a stroke emergency until proven otherwise.
Your Roadmap

📋 The First 48 Hours

A practical checklist to guide you through the next two days

Now First Hours
24h Day 1
48h Day 2
Day 1

🏠 Immediate (First 24 Hours)

Home Safety:

  • Don't leave the person alone
  • Sleep in same room or use baby monitor
  • Remove sharp objects from bedside
  • No bathing alone — showers only, door unlocked
  • No cooking unattended
  • No swimming
  • No driving

Medical:

  • Go to ER if you haven't already
  • Get copies of all ER paperwork
  • Understand what medications were given
  • Write down everything about the seizure
Day 2+

📅 Day 2 and Beyond

Schedule Appointments:

  • Call primary care doctor Monday morning
  • Request neurology referral (within 1-2 weeks)
  • Ask about expedited EEG (ideally within 72 hours)
  • Discuss MRI timing with your doctor

Documentation:

  • Start a seizure diary
  • List all current medications
  • Note family history of seizures
  • Prepare questions for neurologist

Your Progress

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Return to ER Immediately If:

🔄 Another seizure occurs 🧠 Confusion doesn't clear within 4-6 hours 🤕 Severe headache won't go away 🌡️ New fever develops 💪 New weakness or numbness 🗣️ Difficulty speaking 👁️ Vision changes 😰 Personality changes persist
Your Journey

🏥 The Medical Journey

Understanding tests, treatment, and next steps

1

ER Visit

Immediate evaluation

2

Follow-up

Primary care

3

Specialist

Neurologist visit

4

Testing

EEG & MRI

5

Plan

Treatment decision

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Understanding Your ER Visit

The ER's job was to:

  1. Make sure you weren't dying — Rule out stroke, bleeding, serious infection
  2. Stabilize you — Treat any immediate dangers
  3. Start the investigation — Initial blood tests, possibly CT scan
Important: What the ER did NOT do: Definitively diagnose why the seizure happened, tell you if it will happen again, or decide on long-term treatment. That's for your neurologist.

The Full Workup

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Blood Tests

Looking for treatable causes:

  • Blood sugar levels
  • Electrolytes (sodium, potassium)
  • Kidney & liver function
  • Thyroid function
  • Inflammatory markers
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EEG (Brain Waves)

Electrodes record brain electrical activity. Shows epileptic patterns.

Critical: A normal EEG does NOT rule out epilepsy. First EEGs are normal in ~50% of people who later have epilepsy.
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MRI (Brain Pictures)

Detailed brain imaging. Shows:

  • Scars from injury
  • Malformations
  • Tumors
  • Stroke damage

More detailed than CT scan

Risk of Another Seizure

After a first unprovoked seizure:

40-50% will have another within 2 years
50-60% will NEVER have another

Higher Risk If:

  • Abnormal EEG
  • Abnormal MRI
  • Seizure during sleep
  • Focal seizure that spread
  • Family history of epilepsy

Lower Risk If:

  • Normal EEG
  • Normal MRI
  • Clear provoked cause (e.g., lack of sleep)
  • Quick recovery after seizure

Common Medications

If medication is recommended, here's what you might be prescribed:

Levetiracetam

(Keppra)

Often the first choice for adults. Generally well-tolerated.

Watch for: Mood changes, irritability in 10-15% ("Keppra rage"). Tell doctor if you feel unusually angry or sad.

Lamotrigine

(Lamictal)

Requires slow dose increase over several weeks.

Critical: Contact doctor immediately if ANY rash develops.

Valproate

(Depakote)

Effective but has significant considerations.

AVOID IN WOMEN OF CHILDBEARING AGE — High birth defect risk. Can cause weight gain, hair loss.

Carbamazepine

(Tegretol)

Good for focal seizures. Established track record.

Note: Many drug interactions — check ALL other medications with your pharmacist.
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Critical Medication Rules

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Never stop suddenly Can trigger severe seizures
Take consistently Same time every day, use alarms
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Report side effects Many can be managed or adjusted
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Tell all doctors Many drug interactions exist

📝 Questions to Ask Your Neurologist

What type of seizure did I have?
What tests do I need?
Do I need medication now, or can we wait?
What are the side effects of this medication?
When can I drive again?
What activities should I avoid?
What should I do if another seizure happens?
How often should I follow up?
Moving Forward

🌟 Living Life

Emotions, driving, work, and daily life

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The Emotional Journey

What you might be feeling — and it's ALL valid:

😶 Shock "I can't believe this happened."
😰 Fear "What if it happens again?"
😢 Grief "I've lost my sense of safety."
😤 Anger "Why me? This isn't fair."
😔 Shame "I lost control. It's embarrassing."
😟 Anxiety "I'm afraid to be alone."
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All of these feelings are normal. You've experienced something traumatic. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you're feeling. Consider talking to a counselor if these feelings persist.

Healthy Coping Strategies

🗣️ Talk to someone you trust
📝 Journal your feelings
🧘 Practice deep breathing
👥 Join a support group
🚶 Gentle exercise when cleared
💤 Prioritize good sleep
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Driving

This is often the hardest part. Losing driving means losing independence.

The reality: You cannot drive immediately after a seizure. The rules vary by location:

  • Seizure-free period required (3-12 months depending on location)
  • May need to report to licensing authority
  • Your doctor can advise on local requirements
In India: Generally 1 year seizure-free recommended. Should inform RTO.
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Remember: This restriction is usually temporary. Most people get back to driving.
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Work

You're NOT required to disclose unless your job involves safety-critical activities (operating heavy machinery, driving, etc.).

Sample Script for Colleagues:

"I recently had a medical event and am under specialist care. I may need flexibility for appointments. If you ever see me have a medical episode, here's what to do..."

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Sleep

#1 Priority

Sleep deprivation is the #1 modifiable risk factor. One all-nighter can trigger a seizure.

  • Get 7-8 hours consistently
  • Same bedtime even on weekends
  • No caffeine after noon
  • Limit screen time before bed
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Alcohol

Alcohol lowers seizure threshold. Withdrawal is even more dangerous than drinking.

  • Avoid binge drinking completely
  • Interacts with many medications
  • Talk to your neurologist about safe limits
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Exercise

Exercise is generally encouraged and safe with some precautions:

  • ✅ Most sports are fine
  • ⚠️ Swimming: never alone, inform lifeguard
  • ⚠️ Heights: use extra caution
  • 🔴 Avoid: scuba diving, solo water activities

📔 Track Your Triggers

Keeping a diary can help identify patterns. Common triggers include:

Lack of sleep Stress Missed medication Alcohol Illness/Fever Flashing lights (rare) Menstrual cycle Certain medications
For Women

👩 Women's Health

Important considerations for women with seizures

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Contraception Warning

Some seizure medications reduce birth control effectiveness:

Carbamazepine Reduces pill effectiveness
Phenytoin Reduces pill effectiveness
Topiramate (higher doses) May reduce effectiveness
If on these medications, pills/patches/rings may NOT protect against pregnancy.

More Reliable Options:

  • IUD (copper or hormonal)
  • Depot injections
  • Barrier methods (condoms)
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Pregnancy: Plan Ahead

This is critically important: Some seizure medications can cause birth defects. Planning matters.
⚠️ CRITICAL

Valproate has HIGH risk of birth defects — women of childbearing age should generally NOT be on it unless no other options exist.

If thinking about pregnancy:

  1. Talk to neurologist BEFORE getting pregnant — ideally 6+ months ahead
  2. May need to switch medications to safer options
  3. High-dose folic acid (4-5mg) usually recommended
  4. More frequent monitoring during pregnancy
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Good news: Most women with epilepsy have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies with proper planning.
For Parents

👶 Children & Seizures

For terrified parents: Take a breath. Children do remarkably well.

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Febrile Seizures: Complete Guide for Parents

Your child had a seizure triggered by fever. This is called a febrile seizure. You probably thought they were dying. They're not. They're going to be okay.

2-5%
of all children have febrile seizures
96-98%
do NOT develop epilepsy
Age 5
Most children outgrow them

💜 What You Did NOT Do Wrong:

  • Fever medications do NOT prevent febrile seizures reliably
  • You cannot "catch" a fever fast enough — seizures often happen as fever is RISING
  • There was nothing you could have done differently
  • This is NOT your fault. Not even a little bit.

Simple vs Complex Febrile Seizures

Feature Simple (More Common) Complex (Less Common)
Duration Less than 15 minutes More than 15 minutes
Movement Whole body May be one-sided
Recovery Quick (within 1 hour) May take longer
Recurrence in 24h No May occur
Outcome Excellent Usually excellent

Age-Specific Guidance

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Infants (0-12 months)

  • Febrile seizures rare before 6 months — needs thorough workup
  • Seizures may look subtle: lip smacking, eye deviation, bicycling movements
  • Always needs urgent evaluation
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Toddlers (1-5 years)

  • Peak febrile seizure age (6 months to 5 years)
  • Breath-holding spells are NOT seizures (common, scary, but harmless)
  • Absence seizures may begin (staring spells)
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School-Age (6-12 years)

  • Childhood Absence Epilepsy peaks at ages 6-7
  • Teachers may notice "spacing out" in class
  • Most children do well academically
  • Sports participation usually fine with precautions
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Teens (13-18 years)

  • Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy common (morning jerks)
  • Sleep deprivation trigger (exams, gaming, phones)
  • Driving concerns and questions
  • Medication compliance challenges
  • Dating and disclosure conversations
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School Considerations

Who to Inform:

  • Classroom teacher(s)
  • School nurse/health coordinator
  • PE teacher/sports coaches
  • Bus driver (if applicable)
  • After-school program staff

What to Provide:

  • Seizure Action Plan (signed by doctor)
  • Description of what their seizures look like
  • Clear guidelines for when to call 911
  • Multiple emergency contacts
  • Medication information if applicable

📝 School Letter Template

We recommend preparing a one-page information sheet for school staff. Include your child's photo, description of their seizures, and step-by-step instructions.

🎯 Activities Permission Guide

✅ Usually OK Most team sports
✅ Usually OK Running, gymnastics
⚠️ With supervision Swimming
⚠️ With supervision Climbing
⚠️ With precautions Cycling (helmet!)
🔴 Avoid Scuba diving
🔴 Avoid Solo water sports
🔴 Discuss first Contact sports (if frequent seizures)

💜 Your Child Will:

✓ Live a completely normal life ✓ Attend regular school ✓ Play sports (with some precautions) ✓ Have friends and sleepovers ✓ Date, fall in love, get married ✓ Have their own children someday ✓ Have a successful career ✓ NOT be defined by this event
Sensitive Topic

SUDEP: An Honest Conversation

What families searching at 3am need to know

If you're not ready for this section, it's okay to skip ahead.

We debated whether to include this section. It's scary. But families searching will find this information anyway, and we'd rather you hear it with proper context than from a frightening headline.

What Is SUDEP?

SUDEP stands for Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy. It's when a person with epilepsy dies suddenly without a clear cause.

How Common Is It?

~1 in 1,000 people with epilepsy per year

For perspective: You're statistically more likely to die in a car accident. But because SUDEP is potentially preventable with good seizure control, we discuss it.

How to Reduce Risk

  • Take medication as prescribed — This is the single most important thing
  • Never stop medication abruptly without doctor supervision
  • Work with your doctor toward the best possible seizure control
  • Consider nighttime monitoring if having nocturnal (sleep) seizures
  • Regular check-ins with family/friends if living alone
  • Avoid known triggers (especially sleep deprivation)
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Why we're telling you this: Research shows that knowing about SUDEP makes people more likely to take medication consistently. Awareness saves lives. The vast majority of people with seizures live long, full lives. But taking medication matters.
For Caregivers

💜 For Caregivers & Families

You've been through something traumatic too

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For the Person Who Witnessed the Seizure

Watching someone you love have a seizure is traumatic. You saw something terrifying. You felt helpless. You might not be sleeping. You might be hypervigilant, watching them constantly.

This is not weakness. This is a normal response to trauma.

Taking Care of Yourself:

  • 🗣️ Talk to someone about what you witnessed — a friend, family member, or counselor
  • 🧠 Consider counseling if you're having intrusive thoughts or nightmares
  • 👥 Join a caregiver support group (online ones are available 24/7)
  • 🏃 Take care of your own physical health
  • 🤝 Accept help when it's offered — you can't pour from an empty cup
  • ⏰ Schedule breaks — caregiver burnout is real

Signs of Caregiver Burnout:

Constant exhaustion Irritability Feeling hopeless Neglecting your own health Social withdrawal Difficulty sleeping

If you recognize these signs, please seek support. Your wellbeing matters too.

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Living Alone Safety Tips

Technology Helpers:

  • Medical alert bracelet (wear it always)
  • Emergency contacts on phone lock screen
  • Seizure alert apps and devices
  • Smart watch with fall detection
  • Regular daily check-in calls with someone

Home Safety Modifications:

  • Non-slip mats in bathroom and kitchen
  • Showers instead of baths
  • Low bed or mattress on floor initially
  • No locks on bathroom doors (or use emergency release)
  • Padding on sharp furniture corners
  • Microwave preferred over stovetop
Resources

💜 Resources & Support

You don't have to do this alone

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Organizations

  • Epilepsy Foundation epilepsy.com
  • ILAE ilae.org
  • Indian Epilepsy Association ieaindia.org
  • Epilepsy Society (UK) epilepsysociety.org.uk
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Communities

  • Facebook epilepsy support groups
  • Reddit r/Epilepsy (active, supportive community)
  • MyEpilepsyTeam
  • Local hospital support groups
  • Epilepsy Foundation forums
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Helpful Apps

  • Seizure Diary Apps Track seizures, triggers, medications
  • Medication Reminders Never miss a dose
  • Seizure Alert Apps Notify contacts during seizures
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Seizure Action Plan Template

Create this with your doctor and share with family, caregivers, school, workplace.

👤 Personal Information

Name, photo, date of birth, medical ID number

📞 Emergency Contacts

Name, relationship, phone number (2-3 contacts)

⚡ About My Seizures

Type, what they look like, typical duration, warning signs, known triggers

🩹 During a Seizure

Specific instructions for what to do (and what NOT to do)

🚨 Call 108 If

Specific criteria for your situation (e.g., lasts more than X minutes)

💊 Medications

Current medications, doses, timing, emergency medications if prescribed

💳 Wallet Emergency Card

Consider carrying a card with key information:

MEDICAL ALERT: SEIZURE DISORDER I have epilepsy. If I have a seizure: Keep me safe, time it, call if >5 min Emergency Contact: ___________

You're Going to Be Okay

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For the person who had the seizure:

You are not broken. You are not defined by this. Millions of people live full, rich, successful lives with seizures. Athletes, artists, CEOs, parents, teachers. This moment is scary, but it's not the rest of your life.

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For the person who watched it happen:

What you witnessed was traumatic. Your feelings are valid. You helped just by being there. Taking care of yourself is not selfish — it's necessary. You can't support others if you're running on empty.

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For parents:

Your child is going to be okay. They will still do all the things they're meant to do. They'll play, learn, grow, love, and dream. This is a chapter, not the whole story. You're doing a great job.

Seizures are part of some people's lives. They do not have to be the center of anyone's life.

You've got this. And you're not alone.

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